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8 Guidelines for Ministering to Men

A nuanced alternative to the Billy Graham Rule that views men—and ourselves—first as being in the image of God.
8 Guidelines for Ministering to Men
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My cell phone gets me. If I type the letter “B,” it knows I probably want to text my husband. If I enter the word “World,” it suggests “Relief,” knowing I’m probably headed in that direction. My phone knows how to read the room and respond accordingly. It’s a skill much of evangelical Christianity has not cultivated, particularly ...

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You Are Enough

Singleness doesn't make you any less of a leader.
You Are Enough
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This article has been excerpted from our new resource, Navigating Singleness in Ministry.

If you are a single woman in ministry, you have probably asked yourself the question, “Am I enough?” at least once―or a hundred times if you’re anything like me. The short answer is yes―you are enough just the way you are. You are called and equipped by God to lead.

Now ...

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How to Advocate for Singles in Your Church

Minding the margins to draw everyone in
How to Advocate for Singles in Your Church
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Based on the messaging in many evangelical churches today, one might think that Christians believe that people are only able to fully practice Christianity as spouses and/or parents. This is a bit ironic because the two men whose teachings have formed the foundations of our faith practices—Jesus and Paul—were neither! Meanwhile, the last census revealed that 45 ...

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Pariah and Paragon

Women in ministry are often held to two extremes at once.
Pariah and Paragon
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I went to a liberal arts college for my bachelor’s degree, and while it was a great experience in many ways, I can’t count how many classes I attended where the professor asked, “Is anyone here a Christian?” Nine times out of ten I’d be the only person who’d raise their hand. I began to dread that question because my opinions or explanations ...

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The Problem with Colorblindness in Pastoral Counseling

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room.
The Problem with Colorblindness in Pastoral Counseling
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The topic of racial diversity has grown louder and stronger in recent years. As a fourth generation Chinese-American woman who was born and raised in Hawaii and currently lives in the Pacific Northwest, I am happy that race and ethnicity are being brought into the forefront, and that there are movements across the nation to increase awareness about these issues. What bothers ...

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How I Found a Support Network

5 ways I formed a group of women leaders around me
How I Found a Support Network
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I remember the first time I found “my people.” I had been invited to present several workshops at a conference for women ministry leaders. It was the first time I was exposed to a group of people just like me. Women! And not just women, but women who were leaders! In ministry! In the large group sessions, in the workshops, and in the speakers’ room—these ...

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The Extra Job in My Head

How to take a mental break when your mind is filled with reminders of your to-do list
The Extra Job in My Head
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I was sitting in a meeting with my team when I found myself drifting off to my to-do list located smack dab in my head: the sheets need changing, the dog needs groomed, the chicken’s been thawed for two days and needs to be cooked before it goes bad. On and on and on. This wasn’t a random occurrence of my mind wandering. This happens daily. It’s as if I’m ...

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When Volunteers Disappoint

Work through disappointment and create realistic expectations for your team.
When Volunteers Disappoint
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Leadership is an unpredictable ship to navigate. We can’t sail the boat without a crew and we can’t always control the crew—let alone the wind and the waves! Maybe the real problems arise when we try to.

My husband and I have been leading long-term healing and discipleship groups for more than 20 years. Our structure includes a teaching time followed by discussion ...

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Working with a Team Means Better Care

Pooling expertise, wisdom, resources, and networks leads to better ministry.
Working with a Team Means Better Care
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"It's weird." These were not the words I wanted to hear from my son's pediatrician.

For weeks the good doctor had been trying to diagnose what was going on with my son. Lab tests, examinations, ultrasounds; my five-year-old had been given the full work-up. Now, as I sat on the phone in the corner of the gym I took notes on scrap paper, the doctor relayed his ...

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Band of Sisters

How I moved from a lone ranger to intentionally amplifying the work of other women leaders
Band of Sisters
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My first foray into ministry as vocation wasn’t with a church, but rather as a guest preacher and worship leader, filling the pulpit or leading worship for pastors who were away for a week. I referred to myself as the lone ranger. I’m not really a fan of the masked man; it just felt like most days I was going it alone, and it was lonely. Regardless of gender, this ...

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