The christian lifestyle that you propose MsBecker is perfectly good for the women who wish it and who find fullfillment in it. It is very naive of you to suggest that all people have the same personalities and fit in the same lifestyles -and if Ms Rosin suggested that too, she is similarly naive. There are men who don't like to "hook up" and women who truly enjoy it, and vice versa. Life values are also differrent for everyone. I for one don't want to have any children, not now at my 30's nor later. There are way too many things I want to do in my life and there's not enough time for them all it seems so I have to prioritize -but children I don't even want, not if I am through with all the hundreds exciting things I want to do. Do not imply that there's something wrong with me or my values -it's just me. I also find casual sex truly great and satisfying on many levels. I am not suggesting that everyone should or that everyone is mature enough for it -I for one as a teen were not. I became sexually active at the age of 15 due to awful peer pressure/trend, but I only understood what all the fuss was about at the age of 18 when I started really enjoying it and having orgasms -I had had them already as a 10-year-old masturbating, but with a partner it took 3 years. There's a different time for everyone, and people have different tastes. Not all people are christian either -and being not christian does not mean that a person cannot live a truly fullfilling life. Personally I find this fixation with financial success and must-do hypersexuality not my cup of tea, but the lifestyle that you suggest would make me equally miserable, or actually more. There's not ONE right path for everyone.

she succumbs to a truncated and depleted view of humanity that esteems individual work as the highest goal and self-serving love as the highest love.

she succumbs to a truncated and depleted view of humanity that esteems individual work as the highest goal and self-serving love as the highest love.

@Rachel - even one sparrow: thank-you for posting your comments; seeing SATC series dvd's make a resurgence since the movies have come out (go figure?), even in my own/extended family, I especially appreciate your perspective--your openness about your own 'buying into' the message without even realizing it until the harm was done, is very touching and hopefully instructive.

Great post/rebuttal of Rosin's sad article. I'm a little confused by the discussion of male/female aggression. Can we not reclaim the term 'assertiveness' as the positive form of "male aggression" women really are maligned for showing in the work place (assertive woman are seen as aggressive, less than aggressive men are often viewed as passive)? Don't we really want (to raise, to acclaim) men and women of integrity (in all areas of their lives) who can assert themselves confidently and powerfully without demeaning others or devaluing themselves or humanity through a hook-up culture of passivity vs aggression/power vs. control? If all we have left is competition in a Darwinian distopian survival of the fittest world, where we cannot learn the fine arts of dialogue, true compromise, and life-affirming relationships, how empty our lives are becoming. The differences in men and women are meant for beauty in diversity and complimentary intercourse that gives life (not just physically), not a battleground for our petty, egotistical tearing down or using of one another.

I have been wondering what it means by the word 'whore' as appears in the Bible. Confused with 'prostitutes' 'bad women' etc. Thanks for the article Now looking at what's going on the Western society, I have finally met them, they are our own children. There in a horror dream my own children appear on strip-shows and porno flix and youtubes. As the word 'impossible' absent in Napoleon's dictionary, some words are not there any more in the dictionary - 'fornication' 'adultery'. Instead there are tantalizing words 'casual sex' 'one night stand' 'anal sex' 'oral sex' 'teen sex' 'porno-stars' 'pedophile' 'gay marriage' 'Free pills from Uncle Sam! (might as well free condom and free blue pills for the limps like mine) in bold faces, with all the praises heaped on them. Now even the words 'father' and 'mother' are going to banned in France by a law, replaced by asexual or bisexual 'parent'. ( www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/france/9563543/France-set-to-ban-the-words-mother-and-father-from-official-documents.html )

Amen! This culture not only leads to a distance from God, degradation of women, and low self-esteem, but it also leads to the millions of abortions happening world wide every year! www.180movie.com

Thanks for the link to Lisa Wade's article, Tamara! I found the Atlantic piece profoundly distressing as both a Christian and a feminist. I was glad to see Wade speaking some truths to an audience that likely doesn't have a Christian worldview. I serve in a ministry that reached out to women who work as exotic dancers, and I see these kinds of lies lived out all the time. When women first start working as dancers, they often feel a sense of power about making money by "using" the men customers. (Sometimes that feeling comes from a past abuse, and they feel a kind of temporary victory over their abuser.) Inevitably, though, the young women become more and more disgusted and bitter about the men who come in. Though they might not describe it this way, I think it's because they begin to feel the violation of their dignity when they are repeatedly treated as an object -- and importantly, when they see over and over the customers' willingness to debase *themselves* by treating the dancers as dehumanized objects of gratification. No one, men or women, wins in that kind of power/objectification/using dynamic. And it doesn't matter if it's women using men, or vice versa. No one can possibly win. It's an utter violation of the dignity of people created in the image of God.

Thanks for the link to Lisa Wade's article, Tamara! I found the Atlantic piece profoundly distressing as both a Christian and a feminist. I was glad to see Wade speaking some truths to an audience that likely doesn't have a Christian worldview. I serve in a ministry that reached out to women who work as exotic dancers, and I see these kinds of lies lived out all the time. When women first start working as dancers, they often feel a sense of power about making money by "using" the men customers. (Sometimes that feeling comes from a past abuse, and they feel a kind of temporary victory over their abuser.) Inevitably, though, the young women become more and more disgusted and bitter about the men who come in. Though they might not describe it this way, I think it's because they begin to feel the violation of their dignity when they are repeatedly treated as an object -- and importantly, when they see over and over the customers' willingness to debase *themselves* by treating the dancers as dehumanized objects of gratification. No one, men or women, wins in that kind of power/objectification/using dynamic. And it doesn't matter if it's women using men, or vice versa. No one can possibly win. It's an utter violation of the dignity of people created in the image of God.

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