Believing in a Better Modesty Movement
Teaching modesty and purity to women does not make them responsible for the way men behave. The Apostle Paul says quite the opposite. Ephesians 5 calls men to "present her a pure and spotless bride," referencing a husband presenting his wife to God. While men and women are both charged to express self-control for their own individual purity, only men are charged specifically with being responsible for the sexual wholeness of the opposite gender. According to God, it's the man's responsibility to act in integrity regardless of how a woman acts or dresses. This seems to place the ultimate responsibility for respecting human sexuality squarely on the shoulders of men not woman. Protecting a sister's sexual integrity is one of the highest forms of respect that a man can show to a woman. We don't have to earn that respect, but we can be worthy of it. That's why it is so important that women have good conversations with one another about modesty and purity, and why it's especially important that we celebrate our daughter's beauty while we teach them self-control.
Dannah Gresh's faith-based books on sexuality, including And The Bride Wore White, have sold over one million copies. What Are You Waiting For: The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex traces the word yada from Genesis to its Greek counterpart in Revelation. Her most recent release, Get Lost: A Guide To Finding True Love, examines the language of love.
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