Dating today in general is VERY tough. And even more so if you are a Christian. I am a divorced single mom and I have been single a while now. At first it was difficult and I felt like I just have to search for someone. And like most woman (I see from other comments) I wondered what is wrong with me? But as time went I realized my focus was so on the wrong thing! And then I read "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and I read a most important line about doing something with your singleness instead of trying to fix it. So I gave it up. Now I do not even look. I am focused on what advantages I have being single. Especially being a single mom and how I can use that for God. I used to blame men and other women. But then I realized my singleness is SUCH a blessing =)

Apologies if a similar comment has already appeared above in this thread. I dated a lot before I became a Christian. I didn't get asked out ONCE after I was baptized at the age of 26. Until 10 years later, when I met on a missions trip the man who was going to propose marriage to me. And he had completely given up on dating for nearly as long. We "dated" long-distance for 18 months, then married at 38 and 40 years; first marriage for both. Seek to be where God wants you to be and your spouse will be in that place.

@Basil - You can opt to take the worst possible meaning from a statement someone makes or you could opt to try and understand what the person actually said. I think you have chosen the first option. Philip is responding to someone who has stopped going to church altogether because some people upset her. He is only asking her if she may be called to a different place - perhaps a different church. Why find fault with that question? Or are you just being bitter?

@ Melanie Yes somethings are beyond our control. But there are things one can do to increase the likelihood of something happening. For example if I loose my job the first thing I would do is send out resumes, applications and hang round places that have help wanted signs in front of their businesses. If this is an ongoing concern you you you might wish to look into a local Christian singles group. (Many larger churches have them) I cant guarantee anything would happen but as I said before it could increase the likelihood of meeting someone and even making more friends.

As a single 32 year old woman, I don't believe it is any man's fault that I am single. My plan was to be married between 18-20 and start having children by 22. I used to wonder what was wrong with me. Why could I attract guys that didn't meet my list of God approved qualities. Namely I attracted non-Christian guys who weren't shy about admitting they wanted me in bed. They didn't want a wife, they wanted a bed buddy. Then I considered what compromises I could make. If I could find a Christian guy maybe I would allow him to go physically further if he wanted to so I could keep his attention. I quickly tossed that idea. I wasn't prepared to compromise myself for any guy. So here I am a few years later still wondering when it is going to happen for me. I believe it is God's plan for my life because He gave me a deep desire to marry and have children. I don't have a negative attitude towards men. I appreciate them and their place in my life. Despite being a sports-loving girl, I think I come across as feminine enough. I don't know many single Christian men. There are none in my relatively small church. I don't work with any Christian men. The simple answer would be to wait for God to deliver the perfect guy for me to my door. I don't think it is that easy though.