
Asking Why to Chronic Pain at Age 22
As troubling as the pain itself was how meaningless it seemed.
[posted 1/9/2013]
Somewhere between August and October of 2010, I stepped off the tracks of "normal, everyday life" into the no-man's land of chronic pain, then depression. At age 22, I started feeling a sharp, niggling pain in my left ankle every time ...





Brieanna Winkelmann
The physical pain that people suffer from seems to be greatly addressed in this article's comments... The thing that struck me was your admission of the depression you suffered from and what it did to your personal life. I am 21 and was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia when I was 18 years old. Of course I suffer from intense physical pain on a daily basis- that's the disease. What I struggle with is the depression and the effects of having something hinder my life in more than a physical way. Even my best friends don't really understand and try to "fix" me. I don't blame them, they just don't know what else to do. I still struggle most days with the emotional rollercoaster but there is one verse that has always given me hope. John 16:33 "I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world." The peace in him truly is the most miraculous thing. We just have to remind ourselves to take heart!!
Kevin Calegari
When I was in college I experienced the most excruciating sciatic pain that started the morning I woke up from a cold night of sleeping in a cabin with a very light blanket (during RA training). Go figure. The problem was sporadic yet disabling when it acted up. Needless to say it affected my work and personal life significantly for a good ten years. Now 20 years later I don't experience this pain anymore and haven't in years. There's always hope and God knows what we can handle. Offer this suffering to Him and in due time He'll take it away. If not there is a holy reason for it. Never despair and pray the Rosary!
Marie Gregg
I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue and Immune Dysfunction Syndrome in 2010. It is so difficult to put words to something like that; to try and explain pain to those who don't live with it day to day. I am learning to take comfort in the fact that God is always present and that one day perfection will come and pain will end. Until that day, we wait. We hurt. But we are never alone. I will pray for you.
NoVA Reader
Thank you for your courage and honesty. We all want the answers, the conclusions, the lesson to be made clear. When there are no answers, it hurts. Thank you for sharing your truth.
Siyi Feng
Thank you so much for this article. I went through undiagnosed stomach pain for several years starting when I was 22 as well, and I have asked so many of the questions that you have asked, and thought many of the same thoughts. I always tried to find the lesson that God was trying to teach me in it. My stomach has gotten a bit better since then, but my health overall is still poor. It was encouraging to read a perspective from someone who is suffering and younger.
Doug Knox
For heaven’s sake, people, give this poor young lady a break. She’s shared her soul, and the majority of you kick her around Job’s comforters. Some (not all) of these comments show as much compassion as a mouthful of dry oatmeal. Thank you, Liuan, for giving us a window to your pain. I am well into middle age, and the mere prospect of chronic pain and diminishing motor skills scares me. I can’t begin to imagine what you suffer. The only analog I possess is a several-month period when a knee inflammation kept me up at nights, a blip on the radar screen in comparison to your situation. I will not presume to throw advice at you. I salute your courage, and will be praying that God might remove this burden from you.
Carlos Ramirez Trevino
Read 2 Corinthians and it all seems so pertinent. Thanks. Also, this is a good article on pain and suffering. Colossians 1:13 -"For he has rescued us from THE DOMINION OF DARKNESS and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves..." The liberation from darkness is eternal. We are now clothed with the corruptible (1Cor15:50), but He will not leave us naked (2Cor5:1-5). We are engaged in a battle (Eph6:12) and just the mere fact that we are a part of it is significant. During Desert Storm not all soldiers were in the battle field. Some were elsewhere in more hospitable environments. But without them those in the field would have been destitute. Ephesians 3:10 "His intent was that now, THROUGH THE CHURCH, the manifold wisdom of God should be made known to the rulers and authorities in the heavenly realms..." Some suffer in the battle for the eradication of evil more than others, but it is all part of the same purpose. Don't give up!
Carlos Ramirez Trevino
Why some suffer and others don't is a difficult dilemma for Christians. My comparison is to soldiers dedicated to the defense of a nation, principles, and liberty. Like soldiers, Paul tells us, to put on the armor of God (Eph6:10). But above all, we must be willing to fight the good fight. But to put the suffering that results from the battles in perspective, we need to understand why God created heaven and earth. The simple answer is to abolish corruption, sin, decay, pain and suffering. Heb10:5 opens this window of understanding for us by revealing that before time began 2 Tim1:9, while in the planning stages, God decided that He could only end wickedness by creating an instrument in His likeness to have a body through which to defeat sin (Dan9:24). Like soldiers recruited to battle corruption in creation, we suffer, but we press on knowing that Christ is the victory. We are more than conquerors in Jesus. James 1:2-12, Consider it joy when you suffer. We are soldiers of the cross.
Barbara Bates
The Bible never tells us that God will not give us more than we can bear. At one point in his ministry, Paul was so burdened that he despaired of life itself. Why would God do that? Read 2 Corinthians 1:8-10 to discover the answer. It's really quite radical.
Luke Mills
This is a really good essay. Thanks.
Andrew Lang
I'm almost 25 and I have arthritis. I've had it for 3 years now. The doctors never figured out what kind of arthritis it is but it doesn't really matter any more, it's just pain. At first it's just physical pain, but sooner or later it is so much more. Like Liuan said, it's indescribable. I'll be honest, I'm having a really hard time coming to grips with it. Today I just want to crawl into a dark hole and eat a bucket of ice cream laced with morphine. I know there are people who "have it worse than me".. but they're not me. As much as I'm... fighting with God about about all of it... even as much as I'm rebelling against Him and trying to push Him away.. I know He's still there. I could never deny it. Some days that's all that gets me through the day. Through the pain. I'll paraphrase one of the few verses I was ever able to remember.. God is faithful. He will not ever burden you with more than you can bear. He will provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. Thanks Liuan.
Tim Fall
"It is tempting to try to connect all the dots." Great point, Liuan. We are tempted to answer questions God has not revealed to us. Why hasn't he? Who knows. Certainly not that well-meaning woman who asked if you were harboring unforgiveness. It's an unbiblical question, since nowhere in the Bible are we told that our lack of forgiveness for others leads to physical problems. In fact, John 9 strongly suggests that these types of ailments and infirmities are not so easily answered as being blamed on our own sins. Cheers, Tim (timfall.wordpress.com)
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