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Hannah N.

December 13, 2013  11:27am

Returning to this post, I think this is great self-care advice for anyone facing difficult holidays. Thanks for the encouraging words.

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audrey ruth

December 07, 2013  10:30am

Childhood trauma at Christmas time can be a huge issue for teens and adults. A guy I know did not know his biological father and was abandoned one Christmas by his mother who was an alcoholic and had a constant procession of various men through the house. He was the oldest of four and felt responsible for them, but at the tender age of 7 was not able to change anything. He became frustrated, acted out, and his mother had him committed to a state mental institution for being "unruly". He was released after Christmas in time to resume attending school, but he could never enjoy Christmas anymore. Frankly, I cannot even begin to imagine such trauma. He was eventually able to function in society, a miracle in itself. IMHO, only the Lord can heal such trauma. I think #6 "Turn to Jesus" should be #1 on the list, and #5 (playing with children) should be #2. :)

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H. D. Schmidt

December 03, 2013  12:19pm

If the Christians of all Denominations, especially here in the USA, were still of the mind of the shepherds when Jesus was born, this article would have never have been written. More over, maybe Jesus would already have come and taken us to his eternal home, as he promised per he following texts in the Bible: John 14:1-3.

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Lee Blum

December 02, 2013  1:35pm

Thanks for your comments Kerri and Grady! Good point Grady! For me, unpleasant memories had to do with alcoholic relatives getting out of control and many situations that one would like to forget. But I work with many who have had trauma during the holidays and/or death and loss. For some...it is just being with family that brings pain and a need to numb. For some the family members were the perpetrators and that makes it even harder. The songs, the images, and the memories come flooding back at every turn...which can cause someone to relapse or numb out. It can be hard for many...but my hope in writing this article as that despite the pain, people can choose be gentle with themselves during the tough time instead of expecting it to be all perfect. I hope this helps. Thanks for reading! - Lee Blum

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Grady Walton

December 02, 2013  1:26pm

This article is a good reminder to not assume everyone around us is having a great time during the holidays. Blum mentions the "numbness to not feel the pain of the memories of holidays gone by." As one who has had mostly pleasant holiday experiences, I wonder what this looks like. Some examples might help readers understand what some folks are dealing with.

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Keri Welch

December 02, 2013  12:43pm

This a great article for anyone to read. The holidays can easily become a time when we let our vices get the best of us. As I read this, I'm thinking too of those in our midst who find the holidays to be a time to be sad rather than happy. If you have experienced loss, are in a difficult relationship, or just not in the season of life that you long for, the holidays can really magnify the reality of your emotions. It's important for those of us who are in a "good place" to be aware of our friends and family who may not be in that good place and need an extra hug or quality time together during the holidays.

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