We don't have the capability in ourselves to forgive others. But God can empower us to forgive those who have hurt us (Philippians 4:13).
With a blank piece of paper before you, ask God to bring to mind anyone you need to forgive. If he gives you a name or two or ten, start praying for those on your list. Pray every day until you feel God melt that resentment you've been holding onto.
I have found it is impossible to be unforgiving toward those I am praying for. It's not easy to start praying for them; it's one of the hardest things I've done. But when I make that person an object of prayer, I open the door of my heart a little wider so that God can come in and breathe on my hardened heart, melting the icy resentment that is there.
Anne Peterson is a poet, speaker, and author of over 42 studies at ChristianBibleStudies.com. You can learn more about her at www.annepeterson.com.
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