Dear Navigators On The Sea Of Matrimony:
The knack of teaching Christians how to apply the wisdom of the Scriptures to the vexing problems of everyday life is one every Christian minister needs. Baptist pastor Dr. C. S. Lovett of the Personal Christianity Chapel in Baldwin Park, California, has this gift in spades. In his new volume, Unequally Yoked Wives, he plots a strategy to help the Christian wife bring her unconverted husband to Christ. He calls his method “The Nutcracker Technique.”
When I read the flyer about his book, I thought perhaps the developer of “The Nutcracker Technique” was himself a nut. But as I read the book, I found that salty C. S. had come up with a biblically sound approach bound to be appreciated by many Christian women experiencing the agonizing trials of such marriages. The two jaws of his nutcraker are light and works. Lovett writes, “The Holy Spirit joins the two together so that you can bear down on those handles and get all the squeeze you want. The nut in the middle is your unsaved husband. Apply enough pressure and his resistance is sure to crack.”
The light the wife is to shine is the Word. Not the word of incessant preaching, but the personal word of giving God credit for the changed life she is living before her husband. The works are evidenced in her proper submission to him and in her desire to please him as she pleases God. Lovett sets forth four principles: (1) use equal force on both nutcracker jaws; (2) squeeze gently at first; (3) make changes in one area of life at a time; (4) start away from yourself—environmental changes before acts of self-denial. In a variety of true-to-life situations he suggests how a wife may influence her husband: when to give in, when and how to hold her ...1
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