A psychology professor at California State University, Herb Goldberg, tells the following story: “When I was 12 years old my father mocked me for crying one time. I consciously made a decision right then and there that I would never cry again. And I kept it, too, for years. When I finally realized crying is good, and that men need to cry too, I couldn’t do it anymore. Since then, I’ve been trying to learn to cry again, and it’s been very difficult. The same thing goes for other feelings. It’s very hard for me to let myself experience them most of the time” (The Other Side: “I Never Saw Clark Kent Cry”).

Unfortunately, our society has relegated characteristics such as sensitivity and gentleness to the feminine. Feminists have gone so far as to suggest that God is female because he demonstrates these qualities.

It has been stated that TV for the 1980s will promote women as dominant, aggressive, and successful. In contrast, picture the recent commercial for a bath product—an unattractive, pudgy man playing in the bathtub with his rubber duck.

Is it any wonder that boys grow up not knowing who they are, what they should be, and how they should act?

A Different Mold

There once lived a man who exuded confidence and authority. He knew why he was here and where he was going. His purpose kept him from being side-tracked by the errant philosophies of his day. He was not afraid of being thought weak when he cuddled children or treated women with respect. He showed affection to his close friends. Public opinion did not alter his behavior or pressure him into conforming to the status quo.

However, by today’s standards he was a failure, a drifter. During the critical years of his life he held no steady job. He never began a business or joined ...

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