Men's lusts are from the Red Light District; women's fantasies are from Green Gables. Men sin with their eyes; women sin with their emotions. Men masturbate; women daydream. Men have affairs; women shop. Men find it hard to resist smut sabotaging their electronic inboxes. Women devour romance novels.
Such is the comfortable stereotype that helps us avoid an uncomfortable fact: that some Christian women struggle with sexual addiction. The myth about evangelical women's sexuality is a large reason why several CBA publishers turned down a book on female sexual addiction, even though it was written by an articulate expert who's been there.
One by one, the publishers told author Marnie C. Ferree that they weren't willing to broach the topic of female sexual addiction. Why? Very few Christian women battle sexual obsessions, they told Ferree.
But she knew better. Ferree remembers not only her own struggle with sexual shame, but also the confessions of countless Christian women who told her they had thought they were an aberration.
So the licensed marriage and family therapistcalled "a pioneer in the field of women's sexual addiction recovery" by Mark R. Laaser, the executive director of American Association of Christian Counselors' Institute for Healthy Sexualityself-published the book through Xulon Press.
Many Christian women, and the men in their lives, will thank Ferree for this. A former journalist, Ferree writes vividly, integrating her clinical shrewdness with biblical wisdom. But, as is the case with all potential bestsellers, the volume could have used a good editor (who would take out stylistic mishaps such as underlining).
No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Shame introduces us to real women who on Sundays sit ...1
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