I breathed a sigh of relief upon finding out the rumors of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith's separation were false.

In Touch magazine first reported the couple's split, after 13 years of marriage. Rumors of infidelity quickly followed, and later it seems Pinkett Smith was spotted without her wedding ring. It seems that was all it took.

Not them too! I thought, genuinely upset, when I first read the headline.

Why is that?

There's something about a capsized marriage that bothers people who are on the outside looking in. These days, after all, it starts to seem like every marriage is just a divorce waiting to happen. We live in a culture that is in perpetual doubt about marriage. How can we not be? The national divorce rate, according to the Census Bureau, is 9.2 for men and 9.7 for women.

In response to our poor marriage rates, some have glorified divorce—"it's not so bad, kids!"—while others have embraced the idea of avoiding marriage all together, settling instead for serial monogamy or cohabitation.

The church has not escaped these signs of doom. People doubting the possibility of the lifelong covenant that is marriage, though, are better off looking to couples in their midst rather than celebrity pairs.

I am fortunate to know a few couples whose marriages make me wonder nothing so much as, "How do they do that?" At the same time, I kind of don't want to know the day-to-day mechanics of how they pull off a happy marriage; it's enough to know that they do. I suspect that's due to our cultural conditioning: We have been taught, through movies and books, that happy endings come when someone says "I do." After that, it's all downhill.

I don't mean to advocate a more mundane perspective on marriage (though the romanticism ...

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