Peter's Note: My first book (which you can order here) releases at the end of this month, and the editors at Christianity Today have been gracious enough to allow me to post a few excerpts over the next few weeks. This particular passage, which has been edited for length and context, is taken from chapter 2, entitled "Prepare For Brokenness":

The emergency room doctor swept the ultrasound probe to different areas of Carol's stomach, one moment by the belly, then the hip, and back to the belly. We could hear constant static, whooshes, followed by static again. He finally put down the probe, and gently placing his hand on Carol’s shoulder, said, “Guys, I hate to tell you this, but I wasn’t able to find a heartbeat with the ultrasound. Carol, I’m pretty sure you had a miscarriage.”

Carol and I looked at each other and didn’t say a word. He continued, “I know this is hard, but I want to just tell you that this kind of thing happens all the time. Most women don’t even know that they’re pregnant before they’ve miscarried. It doesn’t mean that you can’t get pregnant again either. It’s just one of those sad things that often happens during pregnancy.”

On our drive home from the hospital, I didn’t have much to say to Carol, but figured that I eventually would have something comforting or insightful to share with her. I just needed some time to process things.

The rest of that summer was difficult on Carol. She had to adjust to the loss of the baby, a life that had been growing inside of her, which she had just started to cherish. Carol began to give away all of our baby clothes and toys, convinced she would never ...

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Peter Chin
Peter W. Chin is the pastor of Rainier Avenue Church and author of Blindsided By God. His advocacy work for racial reconciliation has been featured on CBS Sunday Morning, NPR, and the Washington Post.
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