I Don't Need People
My Friend Won't Talk to Me
I have a friend I've hung out with throughout high school until now. It's my senior year and we started hanging out with different crowds. Now she doesn't speak to me anymore. I've heard she's pregnant. I want to say hi to her, but I'm afraid of being rejected. This situation makes me cry, since it's our last year together in high school. I just don't know what to do.
Say hi. If she's pregnant, she needs the depth of your friendship. She has strayed from your relationship and it doesn't sound like you both have the same friends or outlook on life now. However, if she's in need, then she'll probably respond to a friendly greeting from you. Besides, it's just the right thing to do.
I had a friend in college who walked away from his faith and our friendship. It left me hurt and angry. He basically ignored my attempts to try to keep the fires of our friendship burning. One day I heard he was in big trouble. I had two immediate feelings. The first one I'm not very proud of, but I basically thought to myself, He deserves it and can just go through this on his own. Why should I even attempt to reach out to him? It was probably understandable why I felt this way, since I'd been hurt. But even though it was his decision to walk away from his faith and our friendship, it wasn't the right response from me.
My second thought was to swallow my pride, look at the length and depth of our relationship and see if I could come alongside him. I had to ask my-self what Jesus would want me to do in this situation. Even before I finished the thought, I knew what I needed to do. I called him and we talked for five hours—about everything. We talked through my hurt feelings, and I found he had some hurt feelings toward me as well. He told me he thought I'd been rejecting him and acting like I was better than him. The talk helped us work through our problems.
I can't guarantee everything will work out if you talk with your friend. Still, hold to the belief that no matter what happens, you still must do what you know to be right. I like this simple prayer: "Lord, what do you want me to do in this situation? What would you do?" Usually the answer is pretty clear.
Incidentally, my friend and I became closer than ever. He was the best man in my wedding and I'm really glad
I swallowed my pride and called him. I encourage you to do the same with your friend.
Proving Pot is Wrong
I know a lot of people who smoke pot. I told them it was wrong, but they wouldn't listen to me. What reasons can I give them? Are there any verses in the Bible to convince them that this is wrong?
There are verses in the Bible that relate to this issue. However, there are no verses that say specifically, "Thou shall not smoke pot." But other passages address the issue of intoxication, doing God's will and taking care of our bodies. Here are three Bible verses that make a difference for me:
"Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own" (1 Corinthians 6:19).