Skinny is Everything
Q. I want to lose weight. All my friends and family say I look fine, but I don't agree. I feel like the ugly fat girl with my friends. Being skinny means everything. It'd make my life better. How I can be my best?
A. I'm afraid your attitude about your body could be dangerous. Here's why: First, your friends and family say you look fine and you think you look fat. Someone is wrong and I am pretty sure it's not all these other people around you. Secondly, you said that "being skinny means everything."
Although a healthy weight is very important, some people fixate on being skinny and it takes over their lives. I'm afraid this could be you. I would strongly suggest that you ask your parents if you can meet with a counselor who specializes in eating issues. You can also call these organizations for help: Remuda Ranch, (800) 445-1900; The Hopeline, (800) 394-HOPE; and the National Eating Disorders Association, (800) 931-2237.
There are two common types of eating disorders. Anorexia is an intense fear of being fat. Anorexics think they're fat even when they're dangerously skinny. They obsess over calories and fat content, and they detest their bodies. Bulimia is when a person secretly binge eats and then purges the food, usually through vomiting. Do you recognize any of these traits in your own life? If you do, please confide in someone right away.
You say you want to be your best, but you're judging what "your best" means in a different way than God does. He judges us on our hearts (1 Samuel 16:7) and not our waistlines.
Jim is an author, longtime youth worker and founder of HomeWord, a group seeking to honor God through strong families.
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