Why are you doing this alone?
That question is printed on a card that sits on my desk every day. It reminds me not to fall into the trap that too many small church pastors get caught in. That I tend to get trapped in.
Being a small church pastor is one of the loneliest, most stress-filled positions in the world. We have all the work and responsibilities of our big church counterparts, but we operate with a sliver of the staff, the money and the time.
People come to us for answers and comfort, but we often have nobody we can go to when we need answers or comfort ourselves. The stress builds and our health and effectiveness falters.
I’m not stating this as a complaint, but to set the stage for the need to deal with this challenge in a healthy way.
Why Do Small Church Pastors Do So Much Alone?
1. Lack of Time and Money
Conferences, seminars, golf, even a lunch meeting costs more money and time than most small church pastors can afford. This is not an excuse, it's reality.
For those who work a second job, or if pastoring is their second job, it’s even harder.
2. Lack of People In the Church
It's easy to tell a pastor they need to delegate more church tasks to others or to work as a team, but the smaller the church, the harder it can be to find someone – anyone – to step up and help out.
3. We’ve Developed Bad Habits
It starts with lack of time, money and people. But for many, those realities create bad habits that don't allow us to see opportunities when they do come along – or to create opportunities when we can.
4. A Lot of Pastors are Introverts
This is me. Big time. And if studies are to be believed, this is the case for a lot of pastors, in churches of all sizes.
I love people. But being around them drains my energy. It’s like physical exercise. The more I need it, the less I want to do it.
We’re the pastor, the boss, the teacher, the counselor, the administrator, the one with all the answers. We’re not supposed to have needs, we’re supposed to meet needs.
But the idea that I can do most of my pastoral ministry alone is unhealthy, unbiblical and stressful. It can even become sinful.
Jesus and Paul did almost no ministry alone. Even when they found themselves alone, it usually wasn’t by choice. If Jesus and Paul needed friends, how do we think we’ll make it without them?