While I should recognize some common theology and behaviors, something about my visit to your church should be different than other churches.
Including songs I've never heard before. Many people are mourning the loss of a common songbook. But I like it.
Music is one of the ways we express our unique culture and heritage. Whether it’s ancient songs from your church’s history or brand-new songs from a new generation, I want to experience music that comes from your church’s heart.
3. I want to feel like something unexpected might happen
I like a church that feels prepared, but not overly programmed. We should give the Holy Spirit some elbow room.
That will look different from church to church. But when there are moments to pause and be open to the Holy Spirit, it reminds me that God is bigger than today’s order of service.
4. If something unusual happens, I want it explained
If the church is Pentecostal, tell my why you’re speaking in tongues. Liturgical? Why am I kneeling and standing so much?
And please, please, pleeease tell me if communion is open to newcomers. And if not, why not?
5. I want to be one of the oldest people in the room
I’m in my mid-fifties. When I feel like a youngster, I’m concerned for the future of the church. (Unless you’re in a retirement village, of course.)
But when I’m one of the oldest people in the room, I’m encouraged and excited. Youth means life. And a future.
Sure, that means more noise and mess, fashion I would never wear, and sermon illustrations I may not understand. But that’s a small price to pay for the youth and vitality of the church.
6. I want to worship with people who don't look like me
Ethnically, socio-economically, politically, and more.
I love seeing someone wearing a suit worshiping with someone in shorts and flip-flops. An old, tattered Bible next to a cell phone Bible app. Seasoned saints greeting spiritual seekers with genuine warmth and friendliness. And I love not knowing if the kid with the tattoos is a seeker or a saint.
7. I want the emphasis to be on Jesus
I can get self-help and affirmation in lots of places. When I go to church, I want it to be about Jesus.
(For more about this, check out my previous post, For Pastors: Nine Reasons to Stop Telling Everyone They're Awesome)
8. I want to hear how your church is blessing others
I don’t care about your new building program, your political stance, or your denominational problems. Not when I’ve come to worship.
I care how you’re feeding the hungry, housing the homeless, supporting missionaries, and reaching people with the gospel.
9. I want to leave challenged – and better than when I came in
Otherwise, why did I come?
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