Many pastors wouldn’t attend their own church if they weren’t the pastor.
How do I know? I’ve talked with a lot of them.
Sometimes it’s because the church is unhealthy, dysfunctional, even toxic. But many times it’s because of something far less problematic.
The church isn’t as big, or isn’t growing as fast as the pastor, the members or the denomination thinks it should be.
The Skit that Struck Too Close to Home
A few years ago there was a short skit that was popular in a lot of churches. It opened on two people. A women, who’s dressed to go out, and a man who is still in his pajamas.
“You still aren’t ready for church?” the woman asks.
“I don’t want to go to church today!” the man cries as he stomps his foot like a little child on his first day of school.
“Why not?” she asks. “You’ve always liked it before.”
“Not always,” he whines. “Sometimes I hate it there.”
“Don’t say that,” she scolds. “What’s wrong with our church?”
“The services are too long, the music is boring, the sermon doesn’t apply to real life and the people aren’t very friendly,” he complains.
“That may be true,” the woman responds. “But you still have to go.”
“But why do I have to go!” he cries.
“Because you’re the pastor, that’s why.”
The crowd roars in laughter as the lights go out.
No one laughs louder than the real pastor in the front row. But underneath, many pastors who watched that skit were thinking, if they only knew.
That silly skit had more truth in it than many of us would like to admit.
Does Better Always Mean Bigger?
A lot of pastors aren’t happy with their church. But they might be if we changed just one thing – not about the church, but about our attitude towards it.
What if we took numbers off the table and looked at church health through a different lens?
Instead, so many of us have been sold the idea that if the pastor isn’t on a relentless drive toward bigger numbers they must be lazy, stupid or settling for less – maybe all three.
For three or four decades we’ve had a model for church success that has been taught almost exclusively – the megachurch model.
Now don’t jump ahead of me here. I’m not against megachurches. And I’m definitely in favor of church growth.