
I can’t do it all.
Neither can you.
Even though I love saying ‘yes’.
Yes to God. Yes to people. Yes to crazy ideas that might turn out to be great ideas in disguise.
But I’ve learned that saying ‘yes’ means more when it’s balanced by the proper use of the word ‘no’.
In fact, a well-placed ‘no’ may be the most liberating word missing from many leaders’ vocabularies.
Not just saying ‘no’ to others. We’re usually good at that. We need to learn to say ‘no’ to ourselves, too.
If the massive response from last week’s post about ministerial burnout is any indication, there are a whole lot of pastors who need to start saying ‘no’ in small ways now, before they run into the big ‘no’ of ministry burnout and failure later.
Saying ‘No’ Isn’t a Lack of Faith
For years I’ve been told by well-meaning preachers and teachers that if I have enough faith, I can do anything I want to do.
But it’s not true. Or biblical.
Sometimes I’m limited by my abilities (or lack of). I’m 6’ 6” tall, but no matter how hard I work at my ball-handling skills, I can’t play in the NBA.
Sometimes I’m limited by physics. I can’t flap my arms and float up into the sky like a bird.
Sometimes I’m limited by mutually exclusive choices. I can’t walk and not walk at the same time (even if the confused traffic signal at the start of this post seems to think I can).
Saying ‘yes’ in those situations isn’t faith, it’s denial – and maybe a touch of schizophrenia.
When ‘No’ Is Good News
It’s a simple fact of life, built into the fabric of how God created a logical world.
When we choose one option, it always means saying ‘no’ to other options – sometimes to several other options. And no amount of prayer or faith is going to change that reality.
That’s not bad news. It’s good news.
The truth is always good news, even when we don’t like it. Because it’s real. And acknowledging reality is always the best first step to accomplishing anything of lasting value.
Saying ‘no’ isn’t a lack of faith. Sometimes it’s a necessary first step in narrowing our focus and strengthening our faith.
We have to say ‘no’ to some things so we can say ‘yes’ to better things.
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