Christian Unity
Fellow Christian, I’m Going To Assume The Best Of You – Even If You Don’t Give Me The Same Courtesy
If we look for the worst in people, we’ll get bucketloads of it. If we look for the best, we’ll get that.

I know that sounds naïve to a lot of people. But I’d rather be naïve than cynical.

I’d rather trust people who claim to be fellow believers and occasionally be proven wrong than assume the worst of them and constantly be proven right – even if I’m only right in my own mind.

One of the biggest problems of assuming the worst of people is that it leaves us with no way to ever find a footing for the truth. After all, if I’m going to believe Person A was lying just becasue person B told me they were, why should I trust Person B who told me Person A was lying?

Without some level of trust, at least in fellow believers with strong reputations, backed by evidence, everything is suspect.

Plus, when I put myself in the role of assuming someone else’s motives, I’ve put myself in the very dangerous position of assuming knowledge that belongs to God alone, since he is the only one who knows anyone's heart.

I will not ignore evidence to the contrary, but until that evidence presents itself, overwhelmingly and persistently, I will assume that you, as a person who claims to follow Jesus are, in fact, what you claim to be.

And that makes you family.

Families Disagree

This doesn’t mean we won’t ever disagree. Of course we will. That’s what families do.

When I disagree with you, I will confine my criticism to content and not attack you or your motives.

But when I disagree with you I will confine my criticism to content, not attack you or your motives. When we argue, I will seek to listen and learn, not to just yell and win.

Even if you are a member of the self-appointed theological/moral police, I won’t assume you’re trying to tear down the body. I’ll believe you’re trying to defend the faith. Badly, but sincerely.

Make no mistake. You’re not helping, you’re hurting. But I’ll still treat you as a fellow believer and family member.

Run To Grace

I’m not naïve. I know there are wolves in sheep’s clothing. People who claim to be believers, but aren’t. There always have been.

But that’s not automatically the case for someone who has a doctrinal difference with me. I won’t assume that your doctrinal difference comes from a bad heart, but from an honest difference of opinion – again, until that is shown not to be the case with consistent and reliable evidence.

If that does happen, I will not gloat. I will sorrow.

Discovering actual sin or heresy in someone’s life is never a reason for gloating, smugness or “gotchas”. It is a time for sadness, prayer and, if possible, reconciliation.

But people don’t run back to be reconciled to people who have belittled, abused and ostracized them.

They run back to grace.

Outrage is easy. And cheap.

Grace is hard.

Grace is better.

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July 03, 2017 at 3:15 AM

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