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8 Principles To Consider Before Leaving A Church You (Used To) Love
Leaving a church is hard. Don't make it harder by doing it badly.

6. Don’t demonize your previous church or idealize a new church

People tend to make one of two mistakes when they go to a new church: Mistake #1) picking a church that’s exactly like the one they left. Mistake #2) picking a church that’s the opposite of the one they left.

Neither of those extremes is healthy.

It’s understandable that someone might pick a church that’s entirely different from the one they left. But if you push it too far you may be trading one set of problems for another (and very unfamiliar) set of problems.

On the other hand, if the church you’re going to is virtually the same as the one you’re leaving, why not stay put and work things through?

7. Don’t get busy at another church too fast – or too slow

An object in motion tends to stay in motion – and busy people tend to stay busy.

An object at rest tends to stay at rest – and busy people who stop being busy can stall out.

It’s a difficult balance.

Be careful not to fall into either trap. Don’t jump into the first church you find, over-idealize it, then overcommit again. Take some time to rest, recharge and reflect.

Don’t make the mistake of allowing a time of rest to become a habit of laziness, or letting a time of reflection become a lifestyle of entitlement.

But don’t make the mistake of allowing a time of rest to become a habit of laziness, or letting a time of reflection become a lifestyle of entitlement.

8. Reconnect with a healthy church

This may be the greatest danger I’ve seen when long-time church members leave a congregation.

It’s so easy to stay disconnected. But so dangerous, too.

It’s not enough to say “I hang out with some of my Christian friends occasionally.” And it’s definitely not enough to watch church on livestream or podcasts.

Whether it means going to a brick-and-mortar church, a house church, or meeting in some other format, if we hope to stay spiritually passionate, emotionally connected and maturing in our faith we need to breathe the same air as fellow believers on a regular basis.

Our church experience needs to impact our schedule at least weekly. And it needs to include purposeful times of worship, fellowship, communion, ministry and discipleship.

Anything less isn’t church. Anything more is personal preference.

We need Jesus.

We need to be with others who love Jesus.

And other people who love Jesus need to be with you.

For more on this topic:
7 Advantages Of Long-Term Church Membership

8 Benefits Of Investing A Lifetime Of Pastoral Ministry Into One Congregation

The 5 Biggest Dangers Of Staying In A Long-Term Pastorate – And How To Avoid Them

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November 28, 2018 at 1:00 AM

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