I wrestled with whether to let Kevin sing during the morning worship service. I felt uncomfortable with one of his selections, a soft rock song done in a falsetto. But I overrode my reservations; the song was theologically correct and had a clear message.

Afterward, one church leader told Kevin his song was "an abomination that totally ruined the worship service" and that "this sort of thing has no place in the church of Jesus Christ" and that a man singing in falsetto was "unnatural."

It wasn't long before Kevin left the congregation. "It's obvious this group will never accept what I have to offer," he told me. "I want to use the gifts the Lord has given me for him."

The music-style-in-worship debate is nothing if not divisive. Those who prefer traditional hymns clash with those bringing drums and guitars into the sanctuary. People on each side of the debate believe they are defenders of the way God wants to be worshiped.

Can congregations make a lasting peace over this issue?

Those ...