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Three Keys to Someone Else's Mind

When using our gifts of discernment, sensitivity, and intuition, we may be accused of being too "touchy feely." I don't see discernment in this light at all. I simply believe that every fact is preceded by a feeling. By understanding the feelings, we can anticipate the facts.

Three psychological principles are especially helpful:

1. Everyone is logical, according to his or her base. Originally I thought that anyone who differed with me was illogical. Psychiatrist Alfred Adler straightened me out when he wrote that every person is logical if you know the base from which he began his logic.

Now I realize I must find the other person's logic base. Then I can understand his reactions and predict future behavior.

For example, if a person loses faith, his logic will seem askew to those who still have faith. When despair becomes a base, behavior can change anywhere from immorality to cynicism and immobilization.

Two people can have the same experience yet come to different, even opposing conclusions. ...

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