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Chris Seay recommends "rubbing out the singles' pastor." In a recent Leadership article, Seay said single adults should be mainstreamed with married people in church life. TV character Tony Soprano is his example in this kind of ministry, where everyone is family and everyone comes to the table. Seay, who pastors a postmodern congregation in Houston, writes:

"The single young people who fill (or used to fill) our communities live in fear and ignorance when it comes to marital issues. Many come from broken homes and have no concept of a healthy family. So what is the church's response? We separate them out to lead one another like blind guides.

"These people (along with everyone else) should have a seat at the family table. Life is lived with the whole family, not at the kid's table." (Read the full article.)

Response to Chris's view was about three-to-one against mainstreaming, so here is a representative sample:

The article suggests that single adults will blend into the overall ministry ...
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