Our reconnaisance of the weaponry poised against the fort of ministry marriage is now finished. Together, we have held a flashlight to as many mortars and grenades as we could find. We have seen what they can do in the lives of others no less worthy than ourselves.
We have also found that there is no all-purpose invention for defense. Counseling helps sometimes, but not always. Prayer has rescued more than one couple in trouble, but others have seemed unable to break through to God on their knees. Planning, careful scheduling, systems: these all have their place—and their limitations. Openness and honesty are musts in a marriage, but not even they are the whole answer.
We are cast rather into the need for eternal vigilance, responding with variable tactics to the great variety of enemies. Many of our foes are in fact quiet; they do not announce their coming with the shrill whine of a missile. They work unnoticed as long as they can.
All of us believe the proper things about Christian marriage. ...1