Effective ethical influence is best served by giving the group plenty of space. It's okay to try to persuade. But never short-circuit the other's freedom to respond.
—Em Griffin

We met the train at three o'clock Sunday afternoon. I went in my official capacity as president of our university chapter of InterVarsity. Joyce, our vice president, was with me. We'd received word that our new IVCF field rep would visit our group that night. We'd been told to pick her up at the train station and spend time with her until the meeting.

To say we were apprehensive is putting too heavy a cast on the situation. But our executive board was used to flying solo. We hadn't seen a staff person for six months, and we weren't sure exactly what it was we were supposed to do with "our leader" until seven o'clock. It turned out that our vague unease was well founded.

As she stepped off the train, she announced, "My name is Angela Thompson. Please call me Angie because we're going to be very close. I'm ready to ...