3 Ways I’m Nurturing My Emotional Intelligence
A heart moved by the gospel will be stirred with empathy for others.
Lately, I've been thinking about emotions and pastoral ministry— particularly, when it comes to qualities like managing self-awareness and developing relational empathy with those I've
Preparing to Leave a Church You Love
Even when you know it’s time to move on, you’ll likely face mixed emotions.
Preparing to Leave a Church You Love. Even when you know it's time to move on, you'll likely face mixed emotions. Read as Single PagePage 1 of 3.
Bearing the Word
Preachers carry on a tradition Mary exemplified.
The Truer Feelings. As my rage subsided, the truer, more deeply rooted, emotions bubbled to the surface like they always do. I no longer felt angry; I felt excluded and forgotten.
Unresolved Relationship Issues
Recognizing, addressing, and helping others deal with transference.
Transference is a psychological phenomenon in which an individual redirects emotions and feelings, often unconsciously, from one person to another.
Counseling Others When You Have Your Own "Me Too" Story
How to walk alongside sexual assault victims when you’ve been a victim yourself
we must be ready to minister when we hear the cry for help, which means that many of us will counsel women who have been accosted, while still processing the emotions about our
Pastoral Transition: A Very Personal Note
Changing chairs after 25 years as lead pastor at the same church is so unusual that we never could have planned it.
And I'm feeling a huge flood of emotions. Strong emotions are normal for pastors on Sunday afternoons, no matter how Sunday services went. But today is different for me.
Four Questions to Ask When Complacency Calls
With all the politicking, protesting, and terrorizing, it’s tempting to give up the fight.
But I find it is often not my words that are needed, but my broken heart. This frequently shocks me silent; emotions swell high, and the flood leaves me quiet.
Moving Forward After a Difficult Week
Unity may indeed be needed after the election, but it’s okay to grieve first.
fear. Moving forward in a healthy way requires that we first allow ourselves to experience those emotions, sitting with them even when it's uncomfortable.
The Problem with Being an Authentic Leader
The delicate balance of authenticity and confidentiality in leadership.
When I served as a hospital chaplain, I often had to place my own emotions aside to best serve the families and staff at the proper time. This is an example of strategic authenticity.
Three Days Post-Election: Pause Before You Pastor
Let’s make these five commitments together.
1. I will allow myself to feel all the feelings. I accept and own how I feel, and I commit to being present and aware of the range of emotions, thoughts, and questions I have.
I Don’t Fit the Senior Pastor Mold
But I’m leading in the way God has gifted me.
That Sunday morning as I looked across the congregation, similar emotions came over me. As I gave the benediction, I could hold it in no longer: “May the Lord bless you and keep you.
How to Minister to People Who Don’t Like You
Eight tips to love the hard-to-love.
Once I have cried, vented, pleaded, and emptied all my emotions before God, I can sense his guidance and see the situation much more clearly. Read as Single Page Page:123|Next.
Find Your Natural Rhythm
You can’t run full speed all the time.
There is power in a song that can pull on our emotions—make us shed a tear or reflect on an old memory. Sometimes a good tune makes us jump up and dance.
Great Leaders Know How to Handle Their Emotions
But that probably doesn’t mean what you think.
Great Leaders Know How to Handle Their Emotions. But that probably doesn't mean what you think. There are few things that make us feel more vulnerable than our own emotions.