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Since research shows that 30 percent of unmarried Americans attend church in a given week, we asked three church leaders for their insights into this group. As you will see, their thoughts are surprising and provocative. We welcome your insights in our ongoing discussion of this topic. http:\/\/LeadershipJournal.net\/go\/talkback\/<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n

Rubbing Out the Singles Pastor<\/a><\/h2>\n\n

Why we do ministry mob-style.\nby Chris Seay<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

Singular Hope<\/a><\/h2>\n\n

Don’t tell the unmarried to “be content.” Here’s a better response.\nby Kimberly Hartke<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

What to Say about Sex<\/a><\/h2>\n\n

“Just don’t do it” is not the whole story.\nby Harold Ivan Smith<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n

Copyright © 2002 by the author or Christianity Today\/Leadership<\/em> Journal.Click here<\/a> for reprint information on Leadership<\/em> Journal.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Since research shows that 30 percent of unmarried Americans attend church in a given week, we asked three church leaders for their insights into this group. As you will see, their thoughts are surprising and provocative. We welcome your insights in our ongoing discussion of this topic. http:\/\/LeadershipJournal.net\/go\/talkback\/. Rubbing Out the Singles Pastor Why we Read 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