{"id":22077,"date":"1996-07-01T00:00:00","date_gmt":"1996-07-01T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/1996\/07\/01\/friendship-accountability\/"},"modified":"1996-07-01T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"1996-07-01T00:00:00","slug":"friendship-accountability","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/content\/friendship-accountability\/","title":{"rendered":"Friendship &#038; Accountability"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\nAt a medical school graduation, the emcee said, &#8220;No one graduating today\ncould have survived medical school without family and friends.&#8221; That&#8217;s even\nmore true in pastoral work. In ministry, as the writer of Ecclesiastes says,\n&#8220;If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls\nand has no one to help him up!&#8221;<\/p>\n\n<p>\nBut how do we find relationships that feed the soul, provide strength in\nweakness, and lovingly confront when necessary? One pastor confessed recently,\n&#8220;I often feel as if I am pastor to everyone and friend to no one.&#8221; The articles\nin this section help you build friendships and develop healthy accountability.<\/p>\n\n<p>\nFRIENDSHIP. In <strong><em>Friends to Die For<\/em> <\/strong>(p. 22), Scotty Smith, Scott\nRoley, and Michael Card talk candidly about their friendship-and its by-product,\naccountability. Then Mike Yaconelli tells of his startling realization,\n<strong><em>I Don&#8217;t Have Any Friends<\/em> <\/strong>(p. 41).<\/p>\n\n<p>\nIn <strong><em>Training with a Championship Coach<\/em> <\/strong>(p. 54), Chuck Swindoll\nand pastor Bob Roberts, Jr., reflect on what a mentor gave them; Fred Smith\nlists seven questions to ask in looking for a mentor.<\/p>\n\n<p>\nACCOUNTABILITY. In a searchingly honest article,<strong><em>Why I Resist\nAccountability,<\/em><\/strong> psychiatrist Louis McBurney explores our natural\nresistance to forthright relationships (p. 34). He writes, &#8220;Fear of rejection\noften makes accountability scary.&#8221; Randy Alcorn addresses one such scary\nissue&mdash;sexual temptations&mdash;in <strong><em>Strategies to Keep from Falling<\/em><\/strong>\n(p. 46).<\/p>\n\n<p>\nFinally, in <strong><em>Four Ways I&#8217;ve Found Encouragement<\/em><\/strong> (p. 43),\nPresbyterian pastor Heidi Husted shares what has kept her from burning out.<\/p>\n  \n<p class=\"is-style-article-copyright\">1996 by Christianity Today\/LEADERSHIP journal<\/p>\n<p><em>Last Updated: September 17, 1996<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>At a medical school graduation, the emcee said, &#8220;No one graduating today could have survived medical school without family and friends.&#8221; That&#8217;s even more true in pastoral work. In ministry, as the writer of Ecclesiastes says, &#8220;If one falls down, his friend can help him up. 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