{"id":23265,"date":"1991-01-01T00:00:00","date_gmt":"1991-01-01T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/1991\/01\/01\/postures\/"},"modified":"1991-01-01T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"1991-01-01T00:00:00","slug":"postures","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/content\/postures\/","title":{"rendered":"POSTURES"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Differences in physical alignment, or body language, leap out at anyone who looks at videotapes (of conversations) one after another. At every age, the girls and women sit closer to each other and look at each other directly. At every age, the boys and men sit at angles to each other-in one case, almost parallel-and never look directly into each other&#8217;s faces. I developed the term anchoring gaze to describe this visual home base. 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