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Life had lost its meaning.&rdquo; When rebellion no longer satisfied, she was left with &ldquo;no God, no faith, no love, no peace.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n<p>Suicidal thoughts became a constant presence. At her lowest, she cried out, &ldquo;Help me!&rdquo; and then a Christian friend called, asking if she was okay. For the first time, she admitted she was not. Her friend&rsquo;s support pulled her back from the brink. Later, her sister gently asked, &ldquo;Do you want to surrender?&rdquo; Caresse accepted: &ldquo;It was the invitation I&rsquo;d been waiting for without even knowing it. I said yes-to surrendering my pride, confusion, rebellion, and emptiness. My life changed in an instant.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n<p>Now, she talks to God about everything and has found peace. &ldquo;God refused to let me die in disbelief. 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