{"id":38159,"date":"2020-05-22T16:20:00","date_gmt":"2020-05-22T16:20:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/we-are-better-together-than-in-isolation\/"},"modified":"2020-05-22T16:20:00","modified_gmt":"2020-05-22T16:20:00","slug":"we-are-better-together-than-in-isolation","status":"publish","type":"sermon-illustrations","link":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/we-are-better-together-than-in-isolation\/","title":{"rendered":"We Are Better Together Than in Isolation"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The &quot;marshmallow test&quot; is a classic research project that illustrates our lack of self-control and delayed gratification. For the study, the researcher would give a child a marshmallow, and tell them that they could eat the marshmallow OR they could wait until the researcher would return several minutes later, at which time they would get a second marshmallow. Videos abound on YouTube featuring kids, in successive versions of the original experiment, waiting, playing with, and sometimes eating the first marshmallow, forgoing their chances of a second marshmallow.<\/p>\n\n<p>In January 2020, the results of a new version of the experiment were released. In this new version, kids were paired up, played a game together, and then were sent to a room and given a cookie with the promise of another if they could wait for it by not eating the first cookie. However, some of the kids were put in what researches called an &quot;interdependent&quot; situation in which they were told they would only get the second cookie if both they and their partner could wait and refrain from eating. 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