{"id":40015,"date":"2017-03-13T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-03-13T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/man-grades-and-returns-ex-girlfriends-apology-letter\/"},"modified":"2017-03-13T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2017-03-13T00:00:00","slug":"man-grades-and-returns-ex-girlfriends-apology-letter","status":"publish","type":"sermon-illustrations","link":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/man-grades-and-returns-ex-girlfriends-apology-letter\/","title":{"rendered":"Man Grades and Returns Ex-Girlfriend&#8217;s Apology Letter"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>If you&#39;re thinking of writing an apology letter to a former significant other, you&#39;ll probably consider a lot of factors: the amount of time that&#39;s passed since the break-up, whether an email or a handwritten note would be better, etc. But perhaps you should also consider whether your ex will send your letter back to you&mdash;graded.<\/p>\n\n<p>That&#39;s just what happened to the ex-girlfriend of Nick Lutz, a student at the University of Central Florida. Lutz had &quot;received a hand-written, four-page letter from his ex, who apologized for the mistakes she made in their relationship.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p>His response? &quot;He marked up her apology letter, gave it a D-, and said he sent it back to her.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p>Lutz was critical of several aspects of his ex&#39;s letter: &quot;He first noted an indention error and criticized the long introduction. Then he scrutinized the body and statements made throughout the letter.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p>At the letter&#39;s conclusion, Lutz wrote his closing thoughts. 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