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A group of divorce lawyers gave the following five ways social media can hurt a marriage. (All the quotes are from divorce lawyers.)<\/p>\n\n<p><strong>#1) Screentime got in the way of face time.<\/strong>\n&quot;Instead of getting into bed and discussing how each other&#39;s day was, couples opt to be on social media &hellip; [They] engaged with friends, acquaintances or even followers during times that they would otherwise be growing and improving their marital relationship &hellip; Put down your device, ask your spouse how their day was and listen.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p><strong>#2) Reconnecting with old partners led to an affair.<\/strong>\n&quot;Your former partners bring you back to a time when life was less complicated and your greatest challenge was a term paper. Some get so caught up in the romance that they move from posts, to emails, texts, calls and then secret rendezvous. Even if things don&#39;t work out with the old fling, the temporary checking out from your marriage can cause irreparable harm.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p><strong>#3) Everyone else&#39;s marriage appeared perfect in comparison.<\/strong>\n&quot;As you scroll your news feed and see so many seemingly perfect marriages, there is a tendency to compare your own relationship to the perceived perfection of another&#39;s. The weaknesses in your own marriage may become more obvious.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p><strong>#4) Too much personal information was shared online.<\/strong>\n&quot;Intimate details about your relationship and marriage should never be exposed on social media. It causes distrust between partners and it can backfire if you and your partner divorce.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p><strong>#5) The single life started looking more and more attractive.<\/strong>\n&quot;The social media posts of your single &#39;friends&#39; look &hellip; so much better than your own life because many people&#39;s posts are [staged] to portray their own lives in the most positive light. 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