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But in her essay for The Washington Post, &quot;You&#39;re Not as Virtuous as You Think,&quot; Nitin Nohria has a name for this &quot;gap between how people believe they would behave and how they actually behave&quot;&mdash;&quot;moral overconfidence.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>She writes: In the lab, in the classroom and beyond, we tend to be less virtuous than we think we are. And a little moral humility could benefit us all. Moral overconfidence is on display in politics, in business, in sports&mdash;really, in all aspects of life &hellip; There are political candidates who say they won&#39;t use attack ads until, late in the race, their moral overconfidence is in line with what studies find to be our generally inflated view of ourselves. We rate ourselves as above-average drivers, investors, and employees, even though math dictates that can&#39;t be true for all of us. 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