{"id":41927,"date":"2014-09-22T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2014-09-22T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/woman-doesnt-realize-she-was-forgiven-20-years-ago\/"},"modified":"2014-09-22T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2014-09-22T00:00:00","slug":"woman-doesnt-realize-she-was-forgiven-20-years-ago","status":"publish","type":"sermon-illustrations","link":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/woman-doesnt-realize-she-was-forgiven-20-years-ago\/","title":{"rendered":"Woman Doesn&#8217;t Realize She Was Forgiven 20 Years Ago"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Pastor Steve Brown writes:<\/p>\n\n<p>Early in my ministry I counseled a woman who, some twenty years before, had been unfaithful to her husband. For years that sin had haunted her. I was the first person she had ever told about it. After we talked and prayed for a long time, I recommended she tell her husband. (That, by the way, isn&#39;t always the advice I give. In this case, I knew the woman&#39;s husband and knew that her revelation, after the initial shock, would probably strengthen their marriage.) It wasn&#39;t easy for her, but she promised she would tell him. &quot;Pastor,&quot; she said, &quot;I trust you enough to do what you ask, but if my marriage falls apart as a result, I want you to know I&#39;m going to blame you.&quot; She didn&#39;t smile when she said that, either.<\/p>\n\n<p>That&#39;s when I commenced to pray with a high degree of seriousness. (I pray best when I&#39;m scared.) &quot;Father,&quot; I prayed, &quot;if I gave her dumb advice, forgive me and clean up my mess.&quot; I saw her the next day, and she looked fifteen years younger. &quot;What happened?&quot; I asked. &quot;When I told him,&quot; she exclaimed, &quot;he replied that he had known about the incident for twenty years and was just waiting for me to tell him so he could tell me how much he loved me!&quot; And then she started to laugh. &quot;He forgave me twenty years ago, and I&#39;ve been needlessly carrying all this guilt for all these years!&quot; Perhaps you are like this woman: you&#39;ve already been forgiven years ago, but you don&#39;t know God&#39;s forgiveness. 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