{"id":43937,"date":"2011-09-05T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2011-09-05T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/businessman-changes-womans-life-by-refusing-her-sexual-adva\/"},"modified":"2011-09-05T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2011-09-05T00:00:00","slug":"businessman-changes-womans-life-by-refusing-her-sexual-adva","status":"publish","type":"sermon-illustrations","link":"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/businessman-changes-womans-life-by-refusing-her-sexual-adva\/","title":{"rendered":"Businessman Changes a Woman&#8217;s Life by Refusing Her Sexual Advances"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Gary Thomas tells the following story about a friend of his who was on a business trip:<\/p>\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>After the sessions an attractive young woman knocked on his hotel door &hellip;. 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