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Then there&#39;s the escape room, where Mr. Ledbetter says, &quot;Any family member can go to get away from the rest of us.&quot;<\/p>\n\n<p>The Mercer Island, Washington, industrial designer says his 7- and 11-year-old daughters fight less, because their new house gives them so many ways to avoid each other. &quot;It just doesn&#39;t make sense for us to do everything together all the time,&quot; he says.<\/p>\n\n<p>After two decades of pushing the open floor plan-where domestic life revolved around a big central space and exposed kitchens gave everyone a view of half the house-major builders and top architects are walling people off. They&#39;re touting one-person Internet alcoves, locked-door away rooms and his-and-her offices on opposite ends of the house. The new floor plans offer so much seclusion, they&#39;re &quot;good for the dysfunctional family,&quot; says Gopal Ahluwahlia, director of research for the National Association of Home Builders.<\/p>\n\n<p>The approach isn&#39;t for all architects. William Sherman, chairman of the department of architecture and landscape architecture at the University of Virginia, says all the cut-up spaces make families more isolated and lonelier than ever. &quot;People don&#39;t even gather in the same spot to watch TV anymore,&quot; Mr. Sherman says. &quot;It&#39;s sad.&quot;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":30,"featured_media":0,"template":"","tax_ctp_audience":[310],"tax_ctp_authors":[],"tax_ctp_categories":[165],"tax_ctp_format":[171],"tax_ctp_illustration_types":[],"tax_ctp_multimedia":[],"tax_ctp_point_editor":[],"tax_publications":[140],"tax_ctp_tags":[3526,3569,3666,3960,3982,4091,4160,4237,4383,4596,4597,4615,4662,4792,4925,4964,5087,5130,5168,5213],"tax_ctp_topics":[390,396],"class_list":["post-47846","sermon-illustrations","type-sermon-illustrations","status-publish","hentry","tax_publications-ct-pastors","tax_ctp_tags-brotherly-love","tax_ctp_tags-children","tax_ctp_tags-conflict","tax_ctp_tags-family","tax_ctp_tags-fellowship","tax_ctp_tags-grandparents-day","tax_ctp_tags-home","tax_ctp_tags-individualism","tax_ctp_tags-loneliness","tax_ctp_tags-parenting","tax_ctp_tags-parents","tax_ctp_tags-peace","tax_ctp_tags-pop-culture","tax_ctp_tags-relationship","tax_ctp_tags-self-indulgence","tax_ctp_tags-sharing","tax_ctp_tags-strife","tax_ctp_tags-teens","tax_ctp_tags-tolerance","tax_ctp_tags-unity"],"acf":{"scripture_references":[{"first_verse":null,"add_second_verse":false,"second_verse":null},{"first_verse":null,"add_second_verse":false,"second_verse":null},{"first_verse":null,"add_second_verse":false,"second_verse":null},{"first_verse":null,"add_second_verse":false,"second_verse":null}]},"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v22.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>House Built for Dysfunctional Families - CT Pastors<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.christianitytoday.com\/pastors\/preaching\/sermon-illustrations\/house-built-for-dysfunctional-families\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"House Built for Dysfunctional Families - CT Pastors\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"The Ledbetter family likes to spend time at home together, \u0097just not in the same room. 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