Would you would like to be rising to a higher level of leadership in your organization or ministry, but aren't? Have you ever considered what might be holding you back? To rise to a higher level of leadership, it is imperative that you hold yourself accountable for your actions so that you are ready for the responsibility that comes with new positions.
Take Janet: She's been the high school girls youth leader at the church for three years. During those years, several troubled teens have been positively impacted: remaining in school, changing their attitudes, and becoming more responsible. Because of these successes, Janet thought things were going well. However, many of the parents are upset about how the youth ministry is being handled. Most of the events on the youth calendar are posted "just in time" rather than being posted in advance, so parents don't know what to expect and can't plan for their youths' activities. Recently, Janet planned a ministry trip; however, when parents asked practical questions about what time the vans would leave and how much money to bring along, Janet didn't have the answers. This has caused much frustration.
When Janet talked with her pastor about this, he told her that she needs to focus on details and on providing information for the parents, not just on relationships with the girls. He has also asked her to work with a coach.
Janet and her coach began to look at Janet's "presence" in the church. Janet insisted that the pastor doesn't like her and is trying to find thing to pick on. Her coach pointed out that Janet was blaming the pastor for limiting her, and she was complaining and blaming the pastor most of the time during the coaching calls. When asked if others might perceive her as a complainer, Janet stopped short. She realized that she was presenting herself as a victim of her circumstances, rather than as a woman on a mission - that of being a well-respected leader and role model for the teen girls in the church.
As Janet prayed and began taking responsibility for her behaviors and her impact, she began to make some changes. She began looking for female mentors and found several in the women's ministry. Janet also realized that she needed to look seriously at how she presented herself within the church. With the aid of her coach, she changed some of her language and style preferences to be more aligned with people in leadership positions whom she admired. More importantly, she realized she could acquire knowledge she needed to perform at a higher level. Within four months, she had enrolled in evening courses to further her Christian education.