We also make sure we're connecting on that romantic and personal level. Whenever we go on vacation, we bring along little cards or books that help us get off work conversation.
What advice would you give other people who work alongside their spouse or who are considering such an arrangement?
If you are going to do that, your marriage has to already have high skills in partnership, communication, and conflict resolution. That sounds pretty basic, but that's why a lot of marriages end up in our office—they can't do it anymore. If they're fighting about sex or money, it's actually about communication, trust, and respect.
Karen Miller is executive pastor at Church of the Resurrection in Wheaton, Illinois.