Teach with Conviction, Restore in Love
In 1 Corinthians 10:6-13, Paul admonished believers to take notice of how the Israelites fell in the wilderness. He warned us to see them as examples. His message was relevant, and he posed a timeless truth: Refrain from prideful correction and consider yourself. Paul explicitly stated in verse 12, "If you think you are standing strong, be careful not to fall."
The church has taken a back seat on certain issues so church growth will not be hindered. But who wants a church full of weak, carnal Christians? I would rather have a small group of saved, holy Christians who demonstrate Christ in their daily lives.
We must teach unmarried Christians and youth that our bodies are holy to the Lord, and when fornication is committed, a double-edge sword is cutting away. Fornication is a sin against God and one's own body. We must teach them they should flee fornication. (I often say when the Bible says "flee," it means to run at top speed.) We must also show them the grace of God when they make mistakes.
There are certain positions the church should not take. For example, I have seen young girls and women who were overtaken by fornication, brought before the church and made to repent because they were a "reproach" to the church. The errors in this practice were that the fathers were always absent and the "invisible sins" always went unnoticed and unpunished. Eventually, the offending parties walked away from God, never realizing Christ's plan for redemption, and their purposes were castrated.
God never condemns the way we do. Often, when fornication is extremely prevalent in a church or Christian organization, sexually immorality can be found in the life of the leaders themselves. When an individual is overtaken in a fault, we who are godly are to restore them in a spirit of meekness, considering ourselves lest we are also tempted (Galatians 6:1).
Teach the Truth Concerning Sex
Sex has been considered taboo in the church. Not sure why, since sex was God's idea. Sex taught in proper context helps kill curiosity and decreases the possibilities of sexual immorality. In Genesis 4:1, the Bible says, "Adam had sexual relations with his wife, Eve, and she became pregnant." There were no magazines, websites, books, or television. How did they know what to do? All God's idea. God created us to desire sex and enjoy it in the confinement of marriage. As educators, we correct bad teaching and inappropriate behavior through remediation and re-teaching. When we apply correct teaching, it will yield appropriate behavior. Inappropriate behavior is modified through love.