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My Husband Isn’t Called to Ministry

My dreams of ministering together were dashed, but I got something better in return.
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Get practical. If you’re called to full-time ministry in the church, should your husband also hold a full-time job? Or should he look for part-time work, or something with flexible hours? How do you balance responsibilities in the home? Every couple has to figure out what it looks like to be an equal partner so that you’re both supported in your ministries and work outside the home.

“Even in households where both partners work full-time, 41 percent of women report doing more child care and 30 percent report doing more chores,” according to Lean In’s 2015 study on women in the workplace.

Finding this balance outside and inside work life, says Van Til, is what a mutual partnership looks like. It’s a matter of negotiating all the work it takes to run a life. So we put everything on the table and we play a mean game of negotiation.

But we negotiate together. We figure it out together. We show flexibility, and we find our unique balance, together. When we work out the practical details, we can lean into our callings and discover what God has in store.

Cara Meredith is a writer and speaker from the San Francisco Bay Area. She is a member of the Redbud Writers Guild and co-host of Shalom in the City's monthly book club podcast. She holds a Masters of Theology (Fuller Seminary), and can be found on her blog, Facebook, and Twitter.

July05, 2016 at 8:00 AM

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