Is Having It All Worth Having?

Three practices that help me focus on what matters.
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3. Don’t write in the margins.

As women, we’re tempted to fill our lives with more and more responsibilities as we try to have it all. Every time we add new things without removing something, though, we end up squeezing out time for self-care. Several years ago, I started dedicating part of each Friday as a Sabbath for rest, reflection, prayer, reading, and other activities that feed my soul. Yet, when my schedule gets tight, I encroach upon this precious time to my detriment.

Just as we don’t write in the margins of a sheet of paper, we need to clear and protect the margins in our lives. We need bits of time every day or every week to refuel and just hang out with Jesus. When we crowd out this space with endless to-do lists, we’re more likely to succumb to the world’s demands and expectations. It’s not surprising that the Good Shepherd in Psalm 23 first makes his sheep lay down in green pasture, leads them beside quiet waters, and refreshes their soul. This usually happens when we meet God in the margins, the intentionally open spaces where the Holy Spirit reminds us of who we are and to whom we belong.

The abundant life Jesus offers in John 10:10 is not the cultural fantasy of having it all. Jesus promises something radically different and so much better than the success, status, and comfort our world values. Christ, who is our life (Colossians 3:3–4), is offering himself and the promise of his Spirit’s powerful, constant presence within us. Because Jesus is enough, the life he offers us is more than enough.

Carolyn Taketa is the Executive Director of Small Groups at Calvary Community Church in Westlake Village, California.

March10, 2016 at 8:00 AM

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