Primetime Pregnancy: Why We Need Birthing Films
Candice, a regular Her.meneutics reader, wrote to me recently in response to this post, asking what I thought about women sharing their photos and videos of giving birth. Another Christian website had called this practice "immodest"; Candice, who is pregnant and planning a natural childbirth, told me that she has found these videos "inspiring and educational, since I've never seen an actual birth of any kind." She also wondered whether categorizing birth videos as "immodest" might be related to the ongoing discomfort in North America with public breastfeeding. Does Christian "modesty" really mean not viewing or posting pictures depicting these intimate events?
Birth videos show women accomplishing some of the hardest work women ever do. They show great pain resolving into great joy. They show us an event that many of us never see in "real life," an event that Hollywood can depict only in clichfamp;copy;s. In movies, labor begins suddenly, with a frantic cry of "it's time!" or an embarrassing gush of amniotic fluid. In reality, for many if not most women, labor is so gradual that it is only later that they can look back and say, "Oh, that's when it started." Usually there is no need for rushing around panicking; it's more a slow leak than a blowout. Also, doctors don't deliver babies from under a sheet anymore, not every woman screams, "you did this to me!" at her husband, and women don't need to be shouted at to "push." But crises make for better drama and, not infrequently, comedy. ...1