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How Do I Talk to My Daughter About Sex and Masturbation?

Having the hard conversations now can guard your daughter from years of shame.
How Do I Talk to My Daughter About Sex and Masturbation?
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“On the day that happens, we’re going to go out and have a steak dinner and celebrate the fact that God is making you into a man.”

“That” in this sentence is a boy’s first nocturnal emission, or wet dream. The original speaker of this sentence was a father talking to his son, lovingly and honestly preparing him for his journey into manhood.

I first heard this story at a parenting seminar I teach with my friend and coworker, David Thomas. David is a counselor for boys in Nashville and the author of my favorite book on boys, Wild Things. He told this story to highlight the importance of ushering a boy into puberty and his evolving sexuality with truth, grace, and even celebration.

At the end of that seminar, a mother came up and said, “I heard that story David told today. I tried to do the same with my daughter. I told her that soon she would be entering puberty. I talked all about the changes that would go on in her brain and her body, ...

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