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What I Missed
Theme of the Week: Keep Focused on the Right Things
Monday, June 2, 2014

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Key Bible Verses: You cannot fool God, so don't make a fool of yourself! You will harvest what you plant. If you follow your selfish desires, you will harvest destruction, but if you follow the Spirit, you will harvest eternal life. (Galatians 6:7-8, CEV)

Dig Deeper: Galatians 6:7-10

As of the writing of [The Real Win,] Austin Stone Community Church is 10 years old. Those 10 years have gone by so fast. I can't believe that a decade ago I was just starting this good work. My daughter, Annie, had just been born when we planted the church. And—here's my confession—looking back at that time, I have almost no memories of my sweet little girl's first two years of life.

That fact devastates me. I was so involved with planting my church, so consumed with making sure everything ran smoothly, so absorbed in pursuing my goal and creating a success, that I missed out on an important block of my princess's young life.

I've since reconciled things with my family and have brought my life more into balance. But the story is a common one, and the question remains: Men, in our quest for success and achievement, why do things like this happen?

It's true that we men are wired to strive for goals. But here's the problem. The things we're so often striving for have a habit of letting us down. They don't deliver the win we hope they will. At the end of the day, those things don't satisfy, whether we get them or not.

—Matt Carter in The Real Win

My Response: What have I missed because of my "quest for success and achievement"? What have I enjoyed because I chose my family and/or my faith over a promotion, a job change, or some other career or personal goal?

Adapted from The Real Win by Colt McCoy and Matt Carter with Marcus Brotherton (Multnomah, 2013) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.

Prayer for the Week
Heavenly Father, forgive me when I focus more on success than on obedience; impress on my heart that lasting satisfaction only comes from an ever-deepening relationship with you.

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mark mcclendon

June 03, 2014  10:15am

I can only share my experience in being away from home. I'm a full-time over the road truck driver and I stay out 1 week at a time. It was hard at first I felt like I was not being a good father and husband. I have found though Quality time is more important than Quantity. I also experienced God in a personal way that I probably could not experience Ed if I had a normal job at home. God has worked on me and shaped me these last few years. I am a better man for that and I thank my heavenly father. Thank you moi.

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Evan Friese

June 02, 2014  9:45am

The LORD blessed me with a great career and a wife who was willing to stay home and raise our 3 children. She now has decided she needs to take care of herself and that doesn't involve me. I wasn't a perfect dad but I was better than my now ex-wife tells me I am and was. My heavenly Dad loves me, encourage me and promises me there are better things in store.

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Curt Schleicher

June 02, 2014  8:37am

i could pile up the moments to make the days of spent 'squeezing' in my daughters' activities. Those times should have been celebrated with joy & happiness instead were full of stress & anxiety. Now, that i'm retired and can look back at those 'wonderful' years, i can objectively view what i should have done. However, all is not lost because of those times. By learning to live fully in Christ , He is now directing my life and while i've made mistakes in the past they're just that passed. The here and now is what He's provided for me to take care of things and that's what i intend to happen. With the help of guidance & wisdom from Jesus i trust that we are able to make are today's much more family-directed.

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Tim Thornton

June 02, 2014  6:23am

Looking back on the last 15 years as a father I can see that God has directed my steps. Prior to that time I was busy trying to make money. I could see that God was pointing me to have my wife stay home and focusing on the little ones. It hasn't been easy, and God has always provided.

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