Tim Kimmel is the founder and executive director of Family Matters (familymatters.net). He is the author of numerous books including Connecting Church & Home, In Praise of Plan B, and Grace-Based Parenting, and he most recently wrote Grace Filled Marriage with his wife, Darcy.
What he Said … The Absence of Grace
Have you ever experienced situations like the following in your marriage? …
Your wife lets loose a few careless words spoken in frustration—but all too frequently. You're starting to avoid her, not knowing when tempers will flare.
Your mate thinks she's hilarious when she jokes about you in public. Her friends like her witty one-liners too. But you're tired of forcing a smile when her constant putdowns at your expense are anything but funny.
Your wife prides herself on being thrifty. You work hard to provide for your family and think you've earned the right to indulge in a few things. But you're tired of having to ask for permission to spend your collective, but hard-earned, money.
Inconsiderate attitudes and actions have a way of replacing the spark in your marriage with a dull, burning ache. But do they indicate an absence of love? Not necessarily. Couples who do these kinds of things often love each other. These situations—along with most of the things that hurt or disappoint you in marriage—are caused by an absence of grace.