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The Absence of Grace
Theme of the Week: Strengthen Your Marriage by God's Grace
Sunday, May 4, 2014

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Who Said It … Tim Kimmel

Tim Kimmel is the founder and executive director of Family Matters (familymatters.net). He is the author of numerous books including Connecting Church & Home, In Praise of Plan B, and Grace-Based Parenting, and he most recently wrote Grace Filled Marriage with his wife, Darcy.

What he Said … The Absence of Grace

Have you ever experienced situations like the following in your marriage? …

  • Your wife lets loose a few careless words spoken in frustration—but all too frequently. You're starting to avoid her, not knowing when tempers will flare.
  • Your mate thinks she's hilarious when she jokes about you in public. Her friends like her witty one-liners too. But you're tired of forcing a smile when her constant putdowns at your expense are anything but funny.
  • Your wife prides herself on being thrifty. You work hard to provide for your family and think you've earned the right to indulge in a few things. But you're tired of having to ask for permission to spend your collective, but hard-earned, money.

Inconsiderate attitudes and actions have a way of replacing the spark in your marriage with a dull, burning ache. But do they indicate an absence of love? Not necessarily. Couples who do these kinds of things often love each other. These situations—along with most of the things that hurt or disappoint you in marriage—are caused by an absence of grace.

Key Study Passage: Ephesians 4:17-32

Excerpted from Grace Filled Marriage by Tim Kimmel © 2013. Published by Worthy Publishing, a division of Worthy Media, Inc., Brentwood, TN. worthypublishing.com. Used by permission. Twitter: #GraceFilledMarriage @WorthyPub.

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Prayer for the Week
Heavenly Father, I humbly yield my relationship with my wife to you, asking for your transforming grace to permeate all areas of my marriage.

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Barry Lemons

May 08, 2014  11:28am

Hopelessness is what I feel. I feel my marriage is ending or over and I don’t know what to do to fix it. This is exactly how it is in my home right now • Your wife lets loose a few careless words spoken in frustration--but all too frequently. You're starting to avoid her, not knowing when tempers will flare. • Your mate thinks she's hilarious when she jokes about you in public. Her friends like her witty one-liners too. But you're tired of forcing a smile when her constant putdowns at your expense are anything but funny. I have no clue how to fix this or what to do next. I have shared this email with my wife but have gotten no response in return. I pray every day for help and guidance on what to do next. I know I have brought my marriage to this point by my selfish actions. I pray dear God that you come into my marriage and touch us both and help fix what I have broken. In your name I pray….Please pray for me and my family.

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Curt Schleicher

May 04, 2014  9:52am

I sometimes catch myself reverting back to my former self by indulging in "pleasures" i should avoid entirely. i guess , no , i think, no, i realize i'm only hurting myself and putting stumbling blocks in my marriage that we both will have to encounter later. i think that this is a better way to handle the situation at the time; it avoids confrontation; and allows life to go on in a 'normal' manner. i confess in front of you that this sin is there and i do want to remove it from my life. i'm asking you Lord Jesus to take this burden from me this day and restore the beauty back in our marriage. in Jesus name . i pray , amen. i thank you, men of integrity, for placing this burden on my heart in order for it to be confessed before the altar of Christ.

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