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Don't Fear Emotions
Theme of the Week: Owning Your Emotions
Sunday, May 25, 2014

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Who Said It … Darrin Patrick

Darrin Patrick serves as the chaplain of the St. Louis Cardinals. He is the founding pastor of the Journey, a church in St. Louis where dudes feel at home. In addition, Darrin is vice president of the Acts 29 Church Planting Network. He is the author of Church Planter and The Dude's Guide to Manhood. He and his wife, Amie, have four children. Darrin enjoys vacations with his family, basketball, and weightlifting. Check out his blog at

What he Said … Don't Fear Emotions

We all knew the type: tough as nails, a non-crier, a man who isn't afraid of anything. He is a man's man who always gets the girl while never acting like one. He is immovable, like a rock. But like a rock, everything is hard, including his heart. He used to be the template exemplified in John Wayne—tough, unemotional, and in control. The ideal tough guy is being resurrected in the marketing campaigns for Old Spice and Dos Equis, which are pitching a retro version of unemotional manhood.

Men have emotions, but many of us don't know what to do with them. We fear our emotions more than a receding hairline. We don't need to cut off our emotions or let them control us. We don't need to turn into John Wayne or the blubbering guys who cry at everything. Our emotions can move us to love others and fight for the good. They can help our relationships rather than harm them. They can help us become true men and good men rather than men who are laughed at or feared.

Key Study Passage: 1 Thessalonians 2:7-12

Adapted from The Dude's Guide to Manhood by Darrin Patrick (Thomas Nelson, 2014) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.

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Prayer for the Week
Lord, you designed emotions, and they are a good thing. Please help me to keep my emotions in proper balance, and let them be a catalyst for loving you and those around me.

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Tyson Alexander

May 25, 2014  7:18pm

I think it's such a balance. As men we have this protective complex that prevents us from really showing or expressing emotion because of our need to be powerful and assertive. I think that's healthy. Personally I think it brings a sense of confidence because that lack of emotion enables us to be protectors and take care of our family. However I think when we find the right people to be emotional with it's important to be cathartic and let it go. Even as men we are human and it's important to find the balance.

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Curt Schleicher

May 25, 2014  9:09am

i admit it. i'm guilty. i cry sometimes at emotional sequences in movies. But i also am guilty of angry outbursts at times after i've held in emotions for too long. There must be a balance between the 2 extremes. Lord, help me discover this equilibrium. So that i may serve your purposes to their fullest and show the love that's in my heart for my wife, Bonny, my daughters,Lindy & Karin, and the others i care so much for in this life. Thank you for this devotional . In Jesus' name , Amen.

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