Darrin Patrick serves as the chaplain of the St. Louis Cardinals. He is the founding pastor of the Journey, a church in St. Louis where dudes feel at home. In addition, Darrin is vice president of the Acts 29 Church Planting Network. He is the author of Church Planter and The Dude's Guide to Manhood. He and his wife, Amie, have four children. Darrin enjoys vacations with his family, basketball, and weightlifting. Check out his blog at darrinpatrick.org.
What he Said … Don't Fear Emotions
We all knew the type: tough as nails, a non-crier, a man who isn't afraid of anything. He is a man's man who always gets the girl while never acting like one. He is immovable, like a rock. But like a rock, everything is hard, including his heart. He used to be the template exemplified in John Wayne—tough, unemotional, and in control. The ideal tough guy is being resurrected in the marketing campaigns for Old Spice and Dos Equis, which are pitching a retro version of unemotional manhood.
Men have emotions, but many of us don't know what to do with them. We fear our emotions more than a receding hairline. We don't need to cut off our emotions or let them control us. We don't need to turn into John Wayne or the blubbering guys who cry at everything. Our emotions can move us to love others and fight for the good. They can help our relationships rather than harm them. They can help us become true men and good men rather than men who are laughed at or feared.