Key Bible Verse: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God's grace, you're equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don't run aground. (1 Peter 3:7,The Message)
Grace is desiring the best for your spouse, even when they may not deserve it. I know, because I married an angel. She married an idiot.
When we drove away from our wedding reception, Darcy didn't realize she was riding next to a man who likes to go down dead-end roads just to make sure they truly lead nowhere. She was holding the hand of a man whose dreams consistently eclipsed his abilities to make those dreams come true. She also married a man who prided himself as a party waiting to happen, which is fine when you're hanging out with friends on Saturday night but annoying when you're trying to make a living while raising kids.
Fortunately, Darcy and I had a kernel of something that would grow into the defining feature of how we process life together. Its presence in our marriage was in spite of us. In fact, our marriage didn't have a chance without it.
We had grace.
Had we not had God's grace going in, or picked it up along the way, I feel certain that after 40 years of marriage, we wouldn't have much of a love story to tell. At best we'd have a "like" story, but probably it would be a "loathe" story.