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How to Be Good in Bed
Theme of the Week: Experience Sex as God Intended
Tuesday, August 12, 2014

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Key Bible Verse: Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. (Ephesians 5:25, NIV)

Dig Deeper: Ephesians 5:21-33

Let's be honest—every man wants to have the badge of being good in bed. The funny thing is that this desire often disappears with marriage. But let me say it clearly: God wants men to be good at sex. No doubt.

[But the problem is,] we are naturally selfish beings. We look out for our best interests and are often willing to step on anyone we need to in order to have our way. This is especially true in something as pleasurable as sex. But in God's design, sex is not just about satisfaction; it's actually about serving. Godly sex is so paradoxical because two seemingly contradictory things are meant to happen at the same time: we enjoy it, but also must be selfless toward our spouse in having it.

Being driven by Jesus's sacrificial death is the principle that men are to live by in a way that marks an exemplary commitment to your wife (see today's Dig Deeper). Just as Jesus's death motivates and empowers us as men to live well in other areas of life, it also motivates us in our sexual relationship with our wives. Jesus's death helps you be good in bed.

—Eric Mason in Manhood Restored

My Response: In what ways have I demonstrated selflessness in my marriage? In what ways have I been selfish or self-centered?

Thought to Apply: Nowhere does the Bible teach that sex in itself is bad. … The Bible teaches that the wrong use of sex is sinful. For sex, the act by which all life on this earth is created, should be a wonderful, meaningful, and satisfying human experience.—Billy Graham (evangelist)

Adapted from Manhood Restored by Eric Mason (B&H Books, 2013) by permission. All rights reserved by the copyright holder and/or the publisher. May not be reproduced.

Prayer for the Week
Lord, thank you for the gift of sex. Forgive me for times I've misused this gift. Help me to begin each day by committing my body to you as an "instrument of righteousness" (Rom. 6:13, NIV).

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Curt Schleicher

August 12, 2014  8:52am

The ways i've demonstrated selflessness in my marriage is subrogating my desires for her wishes when it comes to disagreements. Two big ways that i've been self-centered are often keeping my connection with baseball at a higher level than i should & putting my needs above hers in sexual satisfaction. Father show me this day how i can improve in both areas of my life. In Jesus name, amen.

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