Ah, social media. You beautiful, hideous beast.
One of my least favorite current trends is the growing number of my Christian friends posting memes, blog posts and videos with headlines like these:
- “Young Student Humiliates Atheist Professor Who Tried To Tell Him God Isn’t Real!”
- “This Will Shut Down An Atheist In 15 Seconds Flat!”
- “A Simple Illustration That Destroys (insert counter-argument here)!”
- “On-the-Street Interviews That Prove Liberals (or Conservatives, or Millennials, or Calvinists, or…) Are Idiots!”
- “Mormons get schooled by Christian man!”
Count me out.
I don’t want to shut down, humiliate or destroy anyone. Or their argument.
Jesus gave us a better way.
One Of The Worst Evangelism Tactics Ever
Shutting down our enemies and their arguments is just one more item on the long list of things Jesus never did or said. In fact, he asked us to do something very contrary to that.
- To love our enemies, not humiliate them.
- To walk an extra mile with them, not slam the door in their face.
- To turn the other cheek, not slap them upside their head (physically or verbally).
Shutting people down (or up) is counter to the gospel. It’s also a bad way to make a valid argument.
And it’s one of the least effective evangelism tactics ever. It doesn’t invite people in, it pushes them away. After all, how many people want to be around someone who has just demeaned them or their ideas?
As I described in Have Coffee With a Radical: The Value of Listening to People We Disagree With, when we shut people down we miss out on something so much better – the chance to turn an enemy (even if they’re just an enemy in the arena of the argument) into a friend.
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People on the other side of an argument don’t need to be shut up. They need to be heard, loved and cared for. Just like you and I do.
After all, they are every bit the image-bearers of God that we are. Bearers of a broken, sinful image, to be sure – but so are we.
No matter how much I may disagree with someone or their viewpoint, as a follower of Jesus I try to deal with people the way he instructed us to. By loving them, listening to them and respecting them. Even if I passionately disagree with them.
Should we not defend the faith? Of course we should. And, at times, that will mean debate, argument, even confrontation.
But we need to stop being so smug about being right – cuz sometimes we’re not. Jesus is. But we’re not.
That’s why humility should be our attitude, not smugness. An attitude of true humility is very engaging. Smugness is repulsive.
We need to stop celebrating the Christian shut-down expert. After all, was anyone ever convinced of the existence of God or the wondrous grace of Jesus by being verbally attacked – in person or on social media?
Only the truth spoken with love compels people in that way.
Because love and truth don’t need to yell.
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